My mom used to tell this story about me. In the story she was making dinner for our family. I, being the self-centered three-year-old that I was, wanted her attention and stood whining at her side. I’m sure the conversation went something like this:
“Yes, Sally. What do you need?”
“What are you doooo-hing?”
Stunned into silence for a moment, I came up with the following:
“Diiiin-nyer? I don’t want dinner. We ate dinner yesterday!”
My mom thought this story was hilarious. That is until many years later into my teens when I still didn’t like dinner. Then she worried. She worried about eating disorders. She worried about my health. She was probably a little more than annoyed that I disdained the food she cooked for our family, but most of all she worried that I wouldn’t cook dinner for my future family.
This is a true story.
So, one evening as she was preparing dinner and I was hoping to just snag a snack instead of sit down to a meal, she confronted me:
“What are you going to do when you have your own family, Sally?” My mom asked with worry and annoyance thick in her voice and manner.
I rolled my eyes and breathed in patiently as only a teenager can and took the bait, “What do you mean, Mom?”
“About dinner. I hope you’ll make dinner for your own family,” she said with such importance that I felt defensive.
“MOM! Of course I’ll make dinner when I’m in charge. I’ll make dinner every night,” I said this with assurance like ‘Why in the world would you think that I won't make dinner for my family? Why do you even think about things like that?’
I’m sure she didn’t believe me, but the thing is, I do make dinner for my family pretty much every night even when I don’t want to eat it. And, really, I think it’s because I told my mom I would.
P.S. Claire seems surprised every night that I’m making dinner again. She complains, “I don’t want dinner, Mom! I don’t want healthy food! I want a snack.” Like mother, like daughter, I guess. :) Also, thank you for all your comments about this baby-on-the-way. I have nausea and fatigue, but I'm happy. We are due June 4.